I am sure that many of us are going to take an examination soon, having a concert, a performance, going for a competition, etc. Some of them are coming very, very soon. Or perhaps, you just have SO much to do and some people are still piling up work high up on your desk. (Just like this site’s name, it is like a mountain)
I know that there would be a lot of stress…
Yes, everyone experiences it. And No. You cannot run away from it.
I believe I had posted something on panic and how to calm down before. Actually, panic is a resultant of stress.
There are actually four types of stress, which have been identified by a specialist called Albrecht. They are:
- Time Stress
- Stress under a limited amount of time.
- Anticipatory Stress
- Anticipating what is to come in the future
- Situational Stress
- Stress in current situations
- Stress affecting current emotions
- Encounter Stress
- Stress when encountering people
- Stress during social interactions.
If you do want to read more, however, this is a helpful link to go to: https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/albrecht-stress.htm
Different people have different coping mechanisms. Yours may be shutting down, getting a blank mind, lashing out at people, withdrawing yourself, working yourself to exhaustion, etc. But at the end of the day, you must remember. Who are you trying to make happy by running around?
So, say there is someone else, other than yourself, whom you are trying to make happy. But have you ever considered that if that person also cares for and loves you, even a little, the person would get worried with how much stress you are going through?
Of course, they would. You cannot hide it. That is not a good option.
But there are some things which you can do:
- Tell someone how you feel and what you are going through.
- Write it down somewhere.
- Breath in, breath out. Deep breaths.
- Read a book.
- Take a nap.
- Sing a song.
- Take a shower.
The last thing you want to do is stress eat or lash out at someone though. This is harm a otherwise healthy relationship you have with another person or cause you to gain unnecessary weight.
Perhaps, for some of us, doing more work can help us relieve stress. Go ahead. But please keep it in moderation.
At the end of the day, however, you would still need to sit down and face it.
So all I have been talking about so far, is BAD stress.
So wait. There is GOOD stress?
Yes, yes there is.
In fact, there is a name for it. Eustress.
Eustress: a positive form of stress having a beneficial effect on health, motivation, performance, and emotional well-being. (Merriam-Webster Dictionary)
But how do we do that?
I believe we can do that, by regulating our behaviour. Self-control. Use more positive ‘I’ sentences. Such examples are:
- “I can do this,”
- “I have done this. I can do this again.”
- “I’ll do my best.”
Of course you will not always get a better performance. This needs to be cultivated over time. Practice make Perfect. Let’s practice keeping calm and doing our best for whatever we are stressed about.
Here are a few more tips on ‘avoiding’ stress beforehand:
- Plan and Prioritise.
- Learn to work under pressure.
- Break the task up into smaller parts.
Remember, having just the right amount of stress is good and having too little or too much stress will not cut it. After all, too little stress results in zero motivation and too much stress leads to well… more bad stress. Good stress at just the right amount can not only motivate us more, but can lead us to perform better.
So let’s all:
Take Deep Breaths.
And Keep Going!! 😀